Confident girl quotes are easy to come by. What is not so easy to come by is the ability to build up confidence in a girl who is already lacking.
It will take time, patience, and a whole lot of modeling.
But I have faith, if you have come here, to the spiritual witch, that you can handle it.
Confidence is something we are born with, naturally, and something that is beaten out of us through life.
In the debate over nature versus nurture, as to whether we are born with certain traits or we develop them as a result of our circumstances, I am on team both/and.
John Locke, famous enlightenment philosopher from the 1600s, said we are all born a tabula rasa, a blank slate. He said that as a result of that, we should provide life, liberty, and property to all humans to ensure they grow up healthy, wealthy, and wise, strong contributors to a functioning society.
I am with him insofar as people are not born good or evil. People are not born thieves or murderers. People are not born kind or passive.
But we are born with certain personality traits that come straight from the Universe that created us.
The ability to love is one of them. The critical element of fear is another.
Confidence is another.
We are confident enough to try and try again.
Babies first learn to try when they breastfeed. They learn to try when they lift themselves up off the ground.
Then when they crawl, when they walk, when they talk, when they eat solid foods, and so on and so forth.
Throughout that entire process, their confidence is either built up or shut down.
When babies and children are criticized, are not encouraged, or are not celebrated for their successes, they tend to shut down, lose their self-esteem, and start to believe they are incapable of success.
Further, when they see their parents and the other adults around them lacking in confidence, criticizing themselves, or allowing others to put them down, they will naturally follow suit.
“If my mom is not good enough, I must not be good enough, either.” They reason.
And fair enough. It is good reasoning.
It’s Not Your Fault
If this resonates with you, and you’re feeling triggered, know that I don’t blame you. It is not your fault.
You are the product of your own environment, you likely have mother wound healing to do, and you have to mother yourself through the process of also mothering your children.
It is not easy.
We live in a world that does not value women beyond the sexualization of our bodies. We are good for two things: sex and reproduction. Beyond that, the world has very little time or energy for us.
And it is not just men. Women have long participated in our own subjugation and oppression.
And often, we don’t wake up to this reality until we become mothers of little girls who lack in confidence, who only value their bodies and not their minds or spirits, and who suffer in this world made for men.
Now, we have the seemingly impossible task of raising girls to be powerful, confident, strong women while also teaching ourselves to be the same.
In short, the most important thing we as mothers, aunts, grandmothers, and other female influencers in the lives of young girls is to model.
We must live the life we hope they will live and talk to them about it while we do. That’s where confident girl quotes come in.
Confident Girl Quotes Start with Self-Love
All confidence begins with self-love.
If you are lacking in self-love, you will never feel good enough, strong enough, powerful enough, especially not to be a role model to a beautiful girl who needs one.
So the first thing you must do is practice self-love.
Genuine self-love means caring for yourself the way you hope your little girl will care for herself.
Prepare your food and eat food out like your food is medicine, nourishing and loving for your body. Because it absolutely is.
You must treat your body like a temple, and a huge part of that is understanding that food can either be powerful medicine or slow poison.
When you eat well, you feel well, and when you feel well, you grow confident.
To support your healthy diet and grow a sense of strength, build regular exercise into your daily routine.
Go for long walks, run, bicycle, swim, anything that will get your heart moving and your body in flow.
Lift weights at least twice a week to build muscle mass, which is a critical foundation for total wellness and a strong immune system.
You will grow strong quite quickly, and that is a recipe for confidence.
Get in tune with yourself with daily morning meditation. It is a sure-fire way to get comfortable in your own skin.
The best thing you can do for your confidence is to sit with yourself and listen to the Universe tell you how much it loves you, so much that it helped create you with your own higher self.
Sit quietly for 20 minutes, clear your mind, and form an emotional connection with yourself.
As you feel your confidence headed in the right direction, you will also learn to set boundaries. Every strong woman from Marie Curie to Helen Keller to Oprah Winfrey will tell you how fundamental boundaries are to self-love and self-confidence.
Learn to say no with a full stop and no explanation when you want to say no.
Eliminate Toxic People
You have got to get rid of people who bring you down, hurt you, or disregard your feelings.
There is an entire universe that adores you. Why are you wasting time and energy on people who make you feel like crap.
That ends today.
You are a strong, independent woman.
Eliminate Toxic Behaviors
And finally, get rid of the things in your life that weigh you down.
Alcohol, drugs, too much sugar, processed food, too much social media or fashion magazines that make you feel like crap.
If it has a side effect that brings down your energy, ditch it.
She’s Watching You
Remember, you can throw all the self-confidence quotes out there you want, but in the end, she will practice what she sees, not what she hears.
Unless what she hears supports what she sees.
Building confidence is a lifelong practice for someone who has lost it, and if that is you, be patient, kind, and loving with yourself as you put this practice into place.
Especially if this is all just hitting you with a bang. You are just now realizing that you too lack in confidence.
Guess what – you deserve to feel strong and powerful, too, just like a lot of girls who grew up lacking in that inherent trait.
It will take hard work, and the hardest thing will be working on yourself; it always is. But it is so worth it.
Your whole life will change; you will become the powerful woman you came here to be, and you will no longer have a deepest fear because you will know that you are creating a better world that offers a better representation of beauty and strength, separate from some Hollywood image of the kind of girl men like.
These confident girl quotes are just a stepping stone for your new adventures and overcoming low self-esteem.
15 Confident Girl Quotes
“No country can ever truly flourish if it stifles the potential of its women and deprives itself of the contributions of half its citizens.”
~ Michelle Obama
“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
~ Eleanor Roosevelt
“You have to take care of yourself, your body, your mind, take care of your soul – be your own keeper.”
~ Jennifer Lopez
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”
~ Maya Angelou
“If you set out to be like, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing.”
~ Margaret Thatcher
“A bad day for your ego is a great day for your soul.”
~ Jillian Michaels
“You have to be confident in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through.”
~ Rosalynn Carter
“That is a motto women should constantly repeat, over and over again. Good for her! Not for me.”
~ Amy Poehler
“My grandmother taught me that happiness is both a skill and a decision, and you are responsible for the outcome.”
~ Helen McCrory
“Everything you want to be, you already are. You’re simply on the path to discovering it.”
~ Alicia Keys
“I’m going to do what I want to do. I’m going to be who I really am. I’m going to figure out what that is.”
~ Emma Watson
“You’ll never to a whole lot unless you’re brave enough to try.”
~ Dolly Parton
“If everything was perfect, you would never learn and you would never grow.”
“There is not job a man can do that I can’t do better and faster.”
~ Frida Kahlo
“I’m gonna look back on my life and say that I enjoyed it – and I lived it for me.”