I have another piece that answers the question, “what is a sole contract?“ But as I was writing that piece, I realized I didn’t have the space in that particular article to help you understand what you are supposed to do about a soul contract. And make no mistake, in many instances, there is much to do with this old contracts that you have here on earth.
What Is a Soul Contract?
To sum up the extensive information in the other piece, all a soul contract is, essentially, is an agreement that your spirit, or consciousness, makes with another spirit or consciousness, before you come into this human body.
To understand the soul contract, you need to understand that energy is everything, but in the beginning the universe was pure, unadulterated, concentrated energy, and only that energy.
Abraham Hicks calls this energy Source Energy.
You can call it God, the universe, Spirit, or even just nature.
But there is no denying that this energy is the origin story for all of us, for all of life, for all that is.
From that energy humans have evolved.
As each human was created, each individual consciousness with siphoned off from the higher consciousness, but of course, still inextricably connected to that consciousness.
Each time we return to Spirit after our human bodies die and from that place of spirit and connection to the higher consciousness, we decide to be human again, purely for the human experience.
I like to think of it in terms of video games, except that you have infinite lives, and in reality you are, at least your spirit form is, unkillable.
You get to set your intentions for each life, based on your past experiences, as a human, and from the God perspective, all knowing, all seeing, all powerful.
God, or Source Energy, benefits, from all experience.
The express purpose of the universe is to expand, to continue to move forward, and to grow. Every single experience contributes to that expansion.
Thus, we are blessed with a god that is completely non-judgmental and entirely unconditionally loving. There is nothing we can do, say, or be that will “piss God off.”
Which means, of course, but our direction, our journeys, each of our human experiences, are all up to us.
Now, when we make these intentions, we can also do so, in concert with other consciousnesses. Another soul may have intentions that align with ours, or that are in contrast to ours.
In order to propel each other’s journey forward, we make a soul contract.
The souls with whom we make these contracts could end up being our lovers, best friends, family members, children, parents, or even people who hurt us terribly, the greatest villains in our lives
Remember, the universe is nonjudgmental. From the perspective of God, there is no good or bad. Only experience.
5 Tips for Dealing with a Soul Contract
Easiest way to tell if you have a social contract with somebody here on earth in your human experience is to check in with your feelings. If the person holds an important place in your life, even if it’s just for a moment, sometimes it’s for a lifetime, you likely have a soul contract with that person.
There is no limit to the number of soul contracts you can have in each human experience.
But what do you do once you realize that you do indeed have a soul contract with a person?
The first and most important thing you can do with a soul contract is to recognize it. As they say, denial ain’t just a river in Egypt.
Sit with the experience, recognize that you have a soul contract with this person, whether you like it or not, and you can begin to move into the next step.
Next, and much more difficult, you must honor the soul contract.
I had a conversation recently with a friend of mine about this topic. No matter how devoted some people are to the spiritual concept of energy, of soul contracts, or of everything happening for a reason, there are sticking points for almost everyone.
“No.” She told me adamantly, shaking her head. “I would never have chosen my father.”
Look, I get it. When you’re stuck inside this human mind, as we all are to some degree or another, you cannot conceive of why you would choose an abuser in your life.
It takes great leaps of faith and a deep trust in the concept of an infinitely loving universe; it demands an utter surrender to a belief in this human experience as ephemeral.
But I will tell you, that in my experience, almost every single time, the sticking point for somebody who’s suffering is the refusal to believe that this experience is part of their original intentions.
When you struggle to honor every single thing that happens to you, you find yourself stuck in one way or another, incapable of moving forward towards your goals, your human goals.
And the reality is, that if you are spiritually aligned, truly following your intuition, which is your download information from higher consciousness, and your higher self, then your human goals will be aligned with the intentions that your spirit set before you came into this human experience.
So whatever it is, honor it. Whatever that soul contract is, perceived by you as good or bad, honor it. You don’t have to like the person, you can cut the person out of your life forever.
But you must honor the fact that you have a soul contract.
Once you honor your soul contract, you can begin to explore it.
With beautiful soul contracts, let’s say with a lover, your twin flame even, these soul contracts can be really fun to explore.
With toxic humans, people who hurt you, people you can’t seem to get out of your life, exploring the soul contract can be much more challenging. But remember, the challenges shape us, and in beautiful ways as much as the beautiful experiences do.
Exploring your soul contract means sitting with it and really thinking about the impact that the person has on your life, and how you can grow from it. What did this experience, or does this experience if it is ongoing, give you as tools that you can use in your own life?
What have you learned?
I council a lot of women. And a lot of times we have many discussions about red flags.
Red flags are the lessons that we learn from past relationships about what we won’t settle for in our next relationship. When you don’t explore the soul contracts that give you the red flags, you find yourself, repeating those red flags over and over again.
Even in the most loving and beautiful relationships, there is much to learn that you can then use as building blocks, or as a foundation to climb to your goals.
I am the matriarch and alpha in my family, but I could never do what I do, and I do a lot, without my husband, my soulmate, my beta. It would be so easy for me to simply ignore that soul contract, take him for granted, take advantage of him, and even abuse him. So easy, if I didn’t explore my soul contract with him.
So explore your soul contracts.
A lot of times, when we feel things really intensely, we tend to want to run away from them. Some of us describe ourselves as non-confrontational. We don’t want to deal with conflict.
But as Dr. Jordan Peterson, renowned psychologist, explains in his book 12 Rules for Life, conflict avoided, is conflict multiplied.
So have the experience.
When you realize that you have a soul contract with somebody, when you honor that soul contract, and when you start to explore and understand the soul contract, experience.
This practice of experiencing what you are living, or even experiencing your past through new eyes, through the eyes of someone who honors her soul contract, you change your story.
You start to embody your intentions, you start to move through the experience and into your real goals.
It is the ultimate act of being present, being grounded, and aligning, your body, your mind, and your spirit.
Finally, surrender your soul contract to the universe.
The worst possible thing you can do in this human experience is fight, resist, reject.
When you learn to flow, to step into the flow, and to work with what ever energy is confronting you, you align fully with the universe.
So surrender the soul contract.
Understand that you already set the intentions, and now the universe is manifesting for you what you asked for, what you willed into being.
You may not have expected it to come in this manner, you may not have even realized that you asked for it, energetically, of course, but it’s here.
Surrender it, and you can move through it, whether it is the love of your life, where you can be more present, or the evil villain, who you can finally release.