It is, I believe, a safe assumption that if you are reading this article for affirmations for change, it is because you are seeking positive changes.
Here’s the thing about positive changes: they are exponential.
If you are feeling the need for positive changes, it is likely because you have been experiencing a run of bad fortune, feeling surrounded by negative thoughts, and perhaps drowning in negative self-talk.
First, know that you are not alone.
It happens to the most positive and optimistic among us.
The Law of Exponentials
This is the law of exponentials.
Jordan Peterson explains it well in his book 12 Rules for Life.
Essentially, when something bad happens, we react to it, usually from a place of stress and anxiety, maybe from a place of depression and hopelessness, depending on where we are in life.
Even if all is going well, when something “bad” happens, we experience it negatively. We approach it from a negative perspective. “Something bad happened.” We think.
From that “bad” and “negative” position, worse comes.
Before we know it, another bad thing happens and we feel more anxious, more depressed, more stressed, or angrier.
We talk about it with friends and family. We play it out over and over, sending all this negative energy out into the world.
It is the trials of Job from the Christian bible.
The devil asks God for permission to test one of his most devoted followers, and God, in His infinite wisdom, agrees.
Please keep in mind that all of this is metaphor. The bible is great with these metaphorical lessons.
Job gets sick, he loses his crops, he loses his land. Yet he remains faithful.
His wife, on the other hand, denounces God. She dies. Poor dear.
So Job loses his wife, he get sicker.
But Job remains devout, trusting in God and His divine will.
Ultimately, Job is rewarded with a new wife, a whole new family, abundance and riches beyond his wildest dreams.
The lesson, contrary to what some might think, is not that God is a sadistic bastard who likes to play games with people’s lives and test their faith.
The lesson is that we have no idea, no way of comprehending, why something is happening in our lives, and that, when we see it as negative, it is negative.
When we see it as positive, it will be positive.
We cannot know when the negative will flip to the positive, but if we remain optimistic, loving, and compassionate, it will.
Because everything passes.
If we remain negative, we only bring more negativity into our lives until even the positive opportunities that present themselves to us seem negative.
And indeed, we can see everything as positive.
One of my favorite quotes is from the book Illusions by Richard Bach:
No problem presents itself without a gift for you in its hands.
We have the opportunity to learn and grow from every single experience in our lives.
The law of exponentials says that we hold all the power. We determine if something is positive or negative, and we tell the universe what to bring us more of.
Flip the Script
Your first affirmation for change is flipping the negative to the positive.
Introducing positive statements, positive thoughts, affirmation statements, positive energy, and positive messages into your daily routine opens you up to new opportunities, healthy relationships, and your best life.
Instead of saying “why is this happening to me?” Or “oh look at this horrible thing that happened to me!” Or “Oh look how horrible my life is!”
Say “thank you for this lesson. I am looking forward to the gift.”
You create a new day in which you can overcome new challenges, negative beliefs, and do new things through positive thinking and unlocking your subconscious mind.
It can be hard. I know.
You had a tough childhood. You survived impossible odds. You have been hurt over and over.
You don’t want to be grateful for your past.
You don’t want to have compassion for your abusers.
But, in order to flip the script, you must.
The best way to rid yourself of negative affirmations is to have a positive attitude and the power of affirmations on a daily basis that will give you an open mind and bring great things. Remember, you are worthy of love and physical health, among other things.
It can help to remember that, while you do have to love everyone unconditionally from your God space, you don’t have to like everyone.
You are still human, after all.
You don’t have to spend time with hurtful people or put yourself in painful or toxic circumstances.
In fact, an enormous part of flipping the script is loving yourself unconditionally first.
You would never put your child, whom you love unconditionally, in a dangerous situation. Don’t do it to yourself.
The second affirmation for change is to set firm boundaries in your life.
You decide who to spend your time with, where to spend your time, and how to spend your energy.
Do not spend time with people who drain you, take from you without giving back, do not inspire you or are not inspired by you, or, and this one is absolute, people who hurt you.
You want only good things and good things in your life, and you will have to be the one to set the boundaries to make it so.
Affirmation: I am worthy of good things and good people in my life. I set boundaries as an act of self-love.
Setting boundaries is probably the most powerful tool to begin to flip the script in your life, to staunch the flow of pain into your life and begin the process of healing and making real life changes.
Now, you must begin to make those real-life changes, get out of your comfort zone, and welcome the law of attraction and the law of exponentials to do their thing, bringing you all the goodness in surprisingly delightful new ways.
Start small, build one new habit at a time, and work your way up to a completely different level in a whole new life.
Move Your Body
For all my Elle Woods fans out there, remember the scene from Legally Blonde where Elle is defending the woman accused of murdering her husband?
She makes the argument that, as a fitness junkie, she could not have gotten angry enough to commit this type of violent murder, because she is constantly working out, and working out gives you endorphins, which are happy chemicals in your brain.
Well, I’m not saying you can’t commit murder just because you exercise, but Elle was onto something.
The more you move your body, the more endorphins you have, and the more likely you are to make positive changes in your life.
Aim for a minimum of 30 minutes every single day. There are 24 hours in a day. You can dedicate 1/48 of that time to moving your body to make positive changes.
Affirmation: I have a strong, healthy body.
And any time you can get outside for that exercise, do it. More than 50% of the US population is Vitamin D deficient, and we only need 15 minutes of sunlight a day to get our required dosage!
15 minutes each day of face, palms, and feet exposed to the sunshine without sunscreen, and you’ll get all you need.
Fresh air is another huge promoter of mental wellness and happiness.
Exercising, even just a daily 30-minute walk, in full sun, and you’ve already made two major positive changes in your life.
The law of exponentials is definitely kicking in by now.
Affirmation: I am one with nature and nature is constantly sending me gifts.
Pay Attention to Nutrition
The nice thing about positive changes is that they build on each other.
When you do one thing, you are inspired to do one more, and one more, and then another.
Typically, when you start moving your body and getting outside, you stop wanting crappy food in that healthier body.
Cut out the processed food and the high fructose corn syrup. They are mental killers. They literally have chemicals in them that make you depressed!
I’m not saying not to enjoy treats and snacks. Just be wary of your ingredients. If you are going to have a treat, make sure it is made with real chocolate, real sugar, and real food.
Your life will thank you for it.
Affirmation: My body is a temple.
While sleep is an absolutely essential part of any positive lifestyle change, I put it this far down on the list because it is hard to sleep well if you are not eating well and moving your body.
Once you have implemented these other changes, though, you will find your circadian rhythms resetting and your sleep patterns regulating.
Aim for 8 hours a night so if you fall short, you are still getting the required 7.
Affirmation: I am worthy of a full night’s sleep.
And finally, meditate.
Studies show that 20 minutes of meditation each day literally rewires your brain, slows down your resting heart rate, and improves your overall health, mentally and physically.
Meditating gets you out of those negative thoughts and creates a pathway for a positive mindset.
Affirmation: I deserve to sit still and be at peace.
In the end, all the affirmations for change are worthless if you do not back them up with action. So take the action, and then affirm you.
Affirmations are statements you make that can change your whole life, as long as you believe them. Give yourself a reason to believe.