Peace is a nebulous concept, one that shifts and shakes up depending on the times and the context. A lot of people, institutions, and entities are calling for peace out of one side of the mouth and screaming for war out of the other.
What does it mean to want peace? And how can crystals for peace possibly help.
This is an important question to ask yourself, and answer, when you find yourself wishing for peace. It took me years to realize that I was not at peace within myself, that I was a social justice warrior turned keyboard warrior, railing against anyone intolerant in my best self-righteous voice.
When I began to fall apart from the inside out, shaking with anxiety, I realized that I was trying to force peace on people.
That I was doing work that was simply not my work to do.
First Put Your Own House in Order
No, I did not become a born-again Christian and start bible thumping (no offense to bible thumping born again Christians), but I did start seeking ways to find internal peace.
And I’ll take wisdom wherever I can get it.
Ancient texts are great places to find lasting lessons on human universals like peace, love, and rules for living a good and purpose driven life. And the bible happens to be just one of those ancient texts. We take what works, the wisdom that has remained for thousands of years, and we discard what no longer applies.
Like the no eating pork, thing. Who are we kidding? Bacon is non-negotiable.
Look, there will always be a country at war, maybe our own. There will always be people suffering human rights abuses. There will always be victims of assault. There will always be the weak and vulnerable and there will always be those who prey on the weak and vulnerable.
What can you possibly do to save everyone? How can you instill peace on the entire world? Even on your country? Or on your small community?
You begin at home.
You begin within.
Clinical psychologist and author Jordan Peterson has recently popularized the expression “first put your own house in order” in his book 12 Rules for Life.
But the expression is one that began with Jesus.
“Do not judge, so that you may not be judged. For with the judgment, you make you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. Why do you see the speck in your neighbor’s eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye?”
The idea here is that if you are not at peace, how can you possibly hope to spread peace in the world?
If you are at war, how can you spread peace?
If you are angry, how can you be calling for peace?
Put your own house in order.
This lesson is a gravely important one, and one that can take a lifetime. Finding inner peace is an ongoing, spiraling journey that will test and try you again and again.
So, if you are looking for peace, make absolutely sure that you are looking for peace inside of yourself, and not outside of yourself.
As you become ever more peaceful, your peace will ripple out across the universe exponentially.
Finding Peace Within
So, how do you do that? How do you find peace within?
- Grow Self Awareness
“I’m not angry!” Quite often, we find ourselves at war within without even realizing it. Someone will ask why you are so upset, and we will shout about how not upset we are. The first step to finding inner peace is to look at ourselves, clearly and lovingly. “Oh.” We might say. I am really angry.” Sure, there’s a lot to be angry about, but unless you have a healthy channel for your anger, you will only end up hurting yourself or someone else, or both.
Get clear on who you are, on how you behave, and on how you channel your anger. Do something productive with it, talk about it with trusted friends or family members, journal about it. And ask yourself if you can even do anything about the things you are so angry about. If not, you will have to let them go.
- Check Your Ego
For the super strong, warrior defenders among us, it can be hard to imagine that we do not have the strength or ability to control the entire world. Self-righteousness is an ego trip that will end in disaster and exhaustion. Check your ego. It will always keep you out of alignment with your inner peace.
- Sit With Yourself
Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. If you are used to being angry, to trying to fix others, to trying to change the world, you will have to get comfortable just sitting with yourself and asking, “what can I work on here?” Trust me, there’s a lot. Most people are so outwardly focused that they never take time to just sit with themselves and look at where they can improve in their own homes.
Remember that you are never alone. You are always being held in divine love by an infinitely wise and loving universe. Sit in meditation and trust that feeling. You are loved. You are not alone. Peace is always available to you.
- Fail without Shame
You will fail again and again. This is normal. We don’t shame a baby learning to walk for falling down. Likewise, don’t shame yourself for failing at finding peace. If you are used to being angry, peace will feel foreign. If you are used to reacting to triggers, not reacting will feel wild. Fail again and again, and do not shame yourself for it. Just get back up and try again.
- Learn from Your Mistakes
And use those failures as opportunities to learn. Each time you fail, reflect on how you could have behaved differently, what you could have done better, and commit to doing better next time.
- Set Boundaries
Quite often, we feel ourselves out of peace and into angry and frustrated spaces because of people in our lives. If it is people out of our lives, send them compassion and stop paying attention to them. But if it is people in our daily lives, it is time to set boundaries. Learn to say “no.” Learn to cut toxic people out of your life. Learn to establish firm boundaries with them. Yes, even with your kids or your parents or your lover. “This is not okay” is a perfectly acceptable statement. You deserve peace, and you will have to work for it.
- Let Go and Walk Away
Know when to let go. You do not have the capacity to pay attention to all the things, care for all the people, take on everyone’s energy. Learn when to just let go of things, people, and problems you cannot change, and walk away. You will find peace almost instantly when you do.
Crystals for Peace
Now, to support your journey toward inner peace, keep a few crystals at hand to remind you of your long and intense work.
- Black Tourmaline A wonderful stone for grounding and staying balanced when things feel heavy.
- Clear Quartz This one offers clarity when you are feeling foggy on what has got you so upset.
- Citrine This orange crystal will keep you positive and focused on the good, which brings peace.
- Amethyst Heal from past hurts and wounds that are bringing trouble to your inner peace.
- Selenite An angel stone, selenite will help you put your faith in the loving universe looking out for you.
- Amazonite This stone will help you learn to let go and let go of your sense of perfection, instead offering patience.
- Hematite For those boundaries you need to set, this one also helps you bring your nervous system into alignment with your spirit.
- Angelite Another letting go stone, this one helps you focus on surrender. Surrender the outcomes of your work, of your world, and know that there is something much bigger at play than you can possibly conceive of. Just do your personal work and surrender.
- Moonstone If it’s PMS that’s got you all worked up, moonstone will help calm and soothe your nerves.
- Aquamarine For when you’re working on consistency and constancy in your journey for peace, aquamarine will give you a refresher.
Consistency is key here. Peace is something that is gathered over time and with a tremendous amount of practice. We live in a world determined to keep us amped up and anxious. It is up to us to say “no.” Set the boundary and choose peace and love over and over again.
As Abraham Hicks is so fond of saying, “there is great love for you here.”